Why Women Cheat

In GENERAL, it is really not in women's nature to cheat.

Needless to say, there will always be exceptions to the rule, and yes, some women just love the thrill of ball chasing. But generally, women get pushed towards cheating.

Ok, so, let's start with the exceptions, and get them out of the way.

There are two kinds. The first is the kind that are just never happy with one penis inside of them. They prefer multiple entries and they enjoy the thrill of juggling them. Fortunately for everybody, those tend to be relationship phobic, so they never really hurt anybody. And sometimes it is just a phase, which they go through, then they revert to normal relationship mode. While others stay like that for ever and often ruin great relationships, in search of that ultimate thrill.

The second kind may or may not love all the sex, but their motivation is slightly different. They have men who fulfil different portfolios in their lives. Minister Of Finance, Minister of Entertainment, Minister of Transport. They will often even have more than one Minister in a particular portfolio. They often don't necessarily enjoy sex with all these guys. They will put it off and delay it as much as possible, because, ironically, they often have one guy who is the "real" boyfriend. Usually a young brother who cannot cater to all her wants and needs. So all he ends up doing is giving her love and sex.

And all her Ministers know about this guy. Which makes it easy for her to spend time with ALL her ministers, because she can always claim that she is with her real man.

Right! Now that those are out of the way (they probably make up about 25% of cheating women), let's get to the majority.

Women who get pushed to cheat. I have often said that it is really not in women's nature to cheat. Women want to nest, settle down, be comfortable. And they will sit there and endure all sorts of rubbish in the name of a comfortable home life.

But, this is where it gets complicated. Many guys, once they realise that you are comfortable and you are content, will start taking their woman for granted. They will go out there and cheat. They will go out there and spend countless evenings, drinking with the boys. They will go out there and cheat (yes, i had to say it a second time). They will pour themselves completely into their work. And they will feel that as long as they are providing for you, you have nothing to complain about.

And they will start neglecting you. The compliments will stop completely. The lovemaking will stop being lovemaking. Instead, he will be coming back home, late at night, drunk, then expect you to spread your legs for him.

When you allow this (and for a while you will because you also miss being touched AND you feel like it is your duty) he goes in, does his thing, gets his rocks off, then rolls off you and falls asleep. And you are lying there awake the whole night. And this will go on for a while.

You may even discover an infidelity or three, but you will stand by your man.

I have often been asked this question and I think I should share my thoughts on the subject: Can poor performance in bed (by her man) lead a woman to cheat? The short answer is: It Depends.

Here is the long answer. Women are very tolerant and forgiving beings. They will sit through the most horrendous nonsense, all in the name of love. So, if a man is good to her in every other way, but happens to be awful in bed. She WILL tolerate it. If a man is decent in every way, makes an effort but is.....ehm, shall we say, under-equipped in the pants section; They will tolerate it.

But if the man does not care about the woman's feelings. Jumps in and has sex with her, and when he is done, rolls over and falls asleep. Well, then, that man is asking for trouble. If all a man cares about is HIS orgasm and nothing else, he is in serious danger of alienating that woman.

Then it is just a matter of time before she meets somebody who makes her feel special. I have said it before and I will say it again. It is NOT in women's nature to cheat. But, once you have pushed her to it, she sure will. It will start out as friendship and innocent flirting, but sooner or later, this man WILL sleep with her.

Cheat on a woman repeatedly. Be uncaring about her feelings. Then you will see the wrath of a woman scorned.

And that's when Sam shows up. He is sweet. He is charming. He is the perfect gentleman. He pays you compliments all the time. He respects you. He gives you ATTENTION. Initially, it is just an innocent flirtation, but you realize that if his words and actions can make you feel so good.

Well, then chances are he can make your body feel good. Lord knows you need it. So, eventually you give in and you have it off with Sam. And it is Explosive! Fireworks! He makes you orgasm more than you have ever come in your life (in your mind) and only then does he penetrate you.

A caring considerate lover. He gives you massages and makes every experience with him feel like Paradise. Eventually, your conscience will get the better of you and you will leave Sam. But, while you are with him, you will be feeling and looking like you are 19 again. You will have a spring in your step, your skin will have a glow. And you will be paying so much more attention to your clothes, your hair and how you smell.

And sometimes, just sometimes, your ignorant man will notice all this and he will step up HIS game. Start paying you more attention. So, truly, that might be the happy ending.

Fortunately, women are VERY good at hiding affairs. They NEVER get caught. I always say, if a woman gets caught, it is because she wanted to get caught.

So, they will often get away from these affairs scott free. But do remember. Affairs ARE dangerous. You could fall in love with Sam (who was never yours to begin with). Sam could fall in love with you.

Your man might call Cheaters on you, because you are making too many business trips to Rustenburg.

So, either way. Be careful. And rather deal with the root cause of the problem. And if the problems just cannot be solved, rather leave than cheat..