I have had many cars come and go in my life. And every so often, if I see one of these on the road, I will either be saddened by how badly the new owner has looked after her, or marvel at how good she looks. And I will instantly wish she was back in my life.
Stay with me....we are still talking cars, here. Look, I know this book is written to and for women. So, this heading is a bit strange. But, this advice is actually still directed at you, ladies. Men tend to approach relationships very differently to women. We treat it more like ownership. You are my woman, you belong to me. Yes, I belong to you too.
But, the moment I lose you, my heart is not really with you any more. Men will stop caring almost immediately sometimes. Oh, do not be fooled. Many WILL keep coming back and banging on your door, telling you they cannot live without you.
But, more often than not, that is no longer his heart speaking. It is his bruised ego.
Back to my car analogy; Do you ever notice how you will break up with a guy and be alone or be in lousy relationships, and never really hear from him? But the moment you get into a great relationship, he will literally LIVE at your doorstep! Begging you to take him back.
Back when you were a mess (from your break up with him) he didn't want you. Who wants a mess? But now that you are happy and glowing....well, that's a different story. He wants that glow. But more importantly, he realises that somebody else is putting that glow on your face. The same way, if not better than he used to.
So...ladies, after a break up, focus on healing. Get that glow back. You really don't need a new man to give you that glow. Just find something that makes you happy. A new hobby, a make over, a holiday, new shoes, bags....whatever. And move on.
Let others see this glow, because nobody is attracted to your morose face and your constant sad stories.
Wakeup Woman!
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